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Can a parent afford to fail at self care?

Self care

As a parent, it’s a full time job making sure our kids are taken care of. There never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything in. What normally gets sacrificed is our own health and well being.

This is crazy.

How effective can we be as parents when we neglect ourselves and let our health suffer?

We need to find time and make sure we take care of ourselves. Even if it is just small moments to get a walk in, to listen to some music in peace, to meditate, or to just have a laugh.

We don’t realize how much we neglect since we are often so busy. It is easy to say, “I’ll take care of it tomorrow” concerning our own needs. One day becomes two and suddenly weeks pass by, sometimes years.

The message we give our kids is to eat right, get proper rest, and get some exercise. How many of us follow that advice?…

We don’t see the effects because we get used to putting ourselves last.

On airplanes, during the safety lecture, we are told to, “Secure our masks before trying to assist others.” It is just common sense that we are no good to others if we are compromised.

In the same way, we can’t be the type of parents our kids need if we are functioning at 50% or less.

What can we do to improve our self care?

  • We can prioritize our health. Nothing else will matter if we continue to neglect ourselves. Making sure we are healthy is not selfish. It is because we have people who rely on us, that we can get motivated.
  • We can forgive ourselves and quit the excuses. We can’t change why we have neglected ourselves but we can try to do something about it.
  • We can use technology to remind us daily to attend to our needs. Most people have smartphones which can be set to chime with notifications. For those without smartphones, sticky notes placed in key places could also do the job.
  • We can ask for help. For something as important as our health, others can buddy up with us to make us accountable. This can also serve as an outlet to discuss how we are doing.
  • We can stop bad habits. From our diet to harmful behaviors, we can take small steps to be better. Our families are worth the effort to change.
  • We can be creative. We can combine multiple needs into one activity. We can try new things and stick with what works.
  • We can start today. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Do something for yourself and your well being. Make sure you are able to give your family 100%.

No matter what our situation we should strive to be better people, better to those we love, and constantly growing. I hope you find ways to do that today and going forward.

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Miranda dreams of Rving across the country with her family and her 2 crazy little dogs – unless she’s swamped being a working mother and helping other moms with practical wisdom she has learned from over 2 decades raising a family. A teen mom, single mom, stay at home mom, working mom, she’s been there done that.

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WHY ARE WE SO COMFORTABLE WITH BODY SHAMING WOMEN?

WHY ARE WE SO COMFORTABLE WITH BODY SHAMING WOMEN?

Everywhere there’s an ad for some product that promises to do something on a woman’s body.

“Are you fat? Take this and lose weight instantly.”

“Have stretch marks? Apply this and they are gone.”

“Don’t like something! Buy this miracle solution.”

I’m not surprised that marketing is preying on the fears and worries of women. I expect it as they are trying to sell products.

What gets me, is that the effectiveness of these tactics hasn’t gone down and that there isn’t more outrage.

WHY ARE WE SO COMFORTABLE WITH BODY SHAMING WOMEN?

Is it so ingrained in our thinking that beauty can only exist in perfection?

Is it that people feel entitled to JUDGE the appearance of another?

Do we project our own doubts and sensitivities onto others?

Why do we need others to approve of our appearance?

Who are we trying to impress?

Why can’t we be happy with ourselves and our inherent beauty?

I could go on and on, but you get the point.

WHY ARE WE SO COMFORTABLE WITH BODY SHAMING WOMEN?

I think this issue begins and ends with each one of us. Marketing is just speaking to people willing to listen. If it didn’t cause us to go out and buy their products, it wouldn’t be there.

The solutions have to center around becoming more confident in ourselves and our value. We can’t allow others to define this for us. They can’t be the judge and jury for how we feel about ourselves. We can’t give away that kind of power.

HOW DO WE FIGHT THIS BATTLE?

  • Be comfortable with your imperfections.
  • Realize that doubt is ok. A temporary doubt should not cause a permanent change in how we look at ourselves.
  • Stop comparing your appearance to others.
  • Don’t judge other women’s bodies.
  • Focus on being healthy instead of a certain look.
  • See the beauty in others.
  • Don’t tolerate those engaging in body shaming.
  • Ignore marketing that objectifies and shames women.

Progress can only be made one person at a time. Each of us has to commit to having a stronger self image. This has to bear fruit in the decisions we make, the products we buy, and how we relate to others.

Then and only then can we stop BODY SHAMING WOMEN.

Body Shaming

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